How do you allocate impulse? In Congolese forests bonobo troops soften conflict through contact biologists politely call social bonding. From outside it looks like chaos. Inside the troop it is diplomacy with a pulse. Two thousand years away Marcus Aurelius wrote in Rome that desire must be governed like a spirited horse. Stoics praised restraint. They look like opposites. The question matches. Bonobos share. Emperors restrain. Humans sit in the awkward middle seat. Civilization is not one blueprint. Culture stamps one answer normal. Is your normal Rome or Congo?